Preventing child sexual abuse
Sexual abuse of children is more common than most people realize.
Some surveys say that at least one out of five women and one
out of 10 men recall sexual abuse in childhood.
As a teacher or caregiver, you play an important role in education and prevention.
What is child sexual abuse?
The American Academy of Pediatrics defines child sexual abuse
as any sexual act with a child that is performed by an adult
or an older child. Such acts include fondling the child’s
genitals, getting the child to fondle an adult’s genitals,
mouth to genital contact, rubbing an adult’s genitals
on the child, or actually penetrating the child’s vagina
Other, often overlooked, forms of abuse occur. These include an adult showing
his or her genitals to a child, showing the child obscene pictures or videotapes,
or using the child to make obscene materials.
Children are most often abused by people they know. According to the pediatrics
academy, the child knows the offender in 8 out of 10 reported cases. The offender
is often an authority figure whom the child trusts or loves. Almost always
the child is convinced to engage in sex by means of persuasion, bribes, or
Prevention in your facility
Child care facilities and schools are often mentioned as places
where child abuse can occur. For the safety of children—and
to avoid allegations—get training. Invite a qualified
mental health expert to give workshops to staff. Assign staff
to research child sexual abuse, using resources such as those
listed at the end of this article.
Review regulatory guidelines on hiring staff and doing background checks. Most
adults who sexually abuse children have a mental disorder called pedophilia.
The typical pedophile is male, but women have also sexually abused children.
Encourage a climate of openness and respect among staff. Supervise new employees
in the spirit of learning and sharing about classroom problems. Discuss appropriate
touching in diapering, toilet learning, and undressing or dressing a child.
Be alert to attempts to isolate a child.
Educating parents and children
Educate parents about preventing sexual abuse. Make it the topic
of your next parents’ meeting or newsletter. Explain
the safeguards in your facility, and encourage parents to drop
in unexpectedly at any time.
In parent conferences, discuss why it’s important to teach children about
their bodies. Ask how you can work together to help children learn the names
of all body parts. Suggest that toileting and bathing provide opportunities
for teaching preschoolers that some parts are private. Discuss parents’ views
on modesty, learning about sex, and the difference between good touch and bad
Help parents learn how to listen to their children. Encourage them to be patient
when it seems hard for a child to talk about something. Encourage them to accept
their child’s fears and calmly discuss scary experiences.
Remind parents that while children must feel free to speak out about any attempt
to molest them, the responsibility for protecting children belongs to adults.
Parents must supervise their children and be careful in selecting people their
children spend time with.
While children are in your care, provide a positive role model. Children need
adults who give them positive, nurturing reinforcement of their own worth.
You’re in a unique position to be such a model. Your behavior and actions
are constantly seen by children and provide a basis for learning.
Learning to recognize sexual abuse
Ideally, we want to prevent sexual abuse from ever occurring.
In some cases, however, the most we can do is recognize it
and prevent it from happening again.
Observe children. Learn the indicators of child abuse and neglect.
(See box on page 25.) Be alert to changes in children’s
behaviors and their relationships with peers. Sometimes it’s
hard to determine what is different, but if it doesn’t
seem right, it usually isn’t.
Listen to children. In some cases, abused children tell friends
about the abuse. A child who is told about or sees abuse in another
child may tell an adult. A child’s first statements about
abuse may be sketchy and incomplete. They may only hint about
Many children who report abuse are not believed. When a plea is ignored, the
child may not risk telling again. As a result, the child could be victimized
for months or years.
Help children understand that abuse—even sexual abuse—is never
their fault. Avoid displays of rage. When adults get angry at another peron
or the situation, children often misinterpret it as “You’re mad
with me.” Give the child lots of comfort and support: “You were
so wise and brave to tell me about this.” This is most important if the
child has been abused by a relative or family friend.
Report suspicions of abuse. If abuse is life-threatening, call 9-11. Otherwise,
call the state child abuse hotline. A doctor helps decide whether sexual abuse
has taken place. When a child is not physically abused and the abuser is a
family member, a caseworker may handle the case. When a child is abused by
a non-family member, the police usually handle the matter.
What happens next depends on the circumstances. If safety is an issue, the
child may be removed from the home. The offender or the entire family may be
required to attend a treatment program. In some cases, the offender may face
criminal charges. In any event, the child and family will need a great deal
of support from relatives and friends.
Prevention in the community
In addition to your individual work with staff and families,
learn about prevention efforts and services for abused children
in your area. Connect with others who share your concern. See
resources on page 27.
Child abuse prevention is a community issue. As an advocate, you can make a
difference in children’s lives and demonstrate that there are adults
References and resources
Child Sexual Abuse, www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/childsexualabuse.html
This Web site, Medline Plus, is a service of the U.S. National Library of Medicine
and the National Institutes of Health. It offers links to a number of resources,
including information from the American Academy of Pediatrics on what sexual
abuse is and how to recognize it.
Greater Texas Community Partners, www.gtcp.org
This nonprofit, volunteer organization works to meet the needs of abused and
neglected children by building partnerships between volunteers and state
and local governments. Volunteers provide caseworkers with items needed by
children, such as clothing, baby formula, and school supplies. Volunteers
also connect caseworkers with churches, businesses, and individuals that
can offer resources and moral support.
Texas CASA, www.texascasa.org
CASA, Court Appointed Special Advocates, is an organization of trained volunteers
who serve as advocates of abused children and provide detailed information
to judges to safeguard children’s best interests and ensure they are
placed in safe, permanent homes as quickly as possible.